Envy is a problem for everyone. The 10th Commandment is essentially about envy- wanting what someone else has. It is a cancer to the soul, breeding complaints against God like a whiny teenager. “If you loved me …”
Ministers are not immune. We can be tempted to envy how God is at work in other churches. At least in how we perceive it.
I had one of those experiences recently as a few fellow pastors gathered to discuss a common project. One, a church planter, noted upon being asked how their new facility is already packed. The attendance is about 50% higher than ours.
For me it turns into self-condemnation of a sort. “You stink. If you were a good pastor/preacher/leader you’d see that and more.”
Envy destroys contentment. And that is the 2nd mistake that Dave Kraft addresses in Mistakes Leaders Make.
It isn’t limited to ministry success. You can envy how much other pastors make. As a Presbyterian, I know how much new pastors in the Presbytery make. When you pastor a smaller church, that is tough. Suddenly you think about your retirement, that cruise you wish you could take and a host of other things. It can easily distract you from the task at hand.
“I think it is good to compare what is happening through me (and in me) with what could potentially happen. It is good to compare where I am with my growth and ministry effectiveness with where it is possible to be, with God’s grace. Where I get into trouble is when I compare with others who have different gifts, callings, capacities, and personalities.”
There are several important things there. First, comparing is okay if I’m wondering what God could do with me (keeping my gifts and limitations in mind). It becomes a question of faithfulness, am I being faithful? How can I be more faithful? That is a far better standard than success.
Well, they wrote a book together. Matt was the primary author, and Jared helped him out. The book is 
“For he is not talking about sin and its guilt but about temptations, afflictions, and persecutions. So the mercy meant here must be the cause for our deliverance- namely, in its consequences. … In addition to this, the apostle is not here referring to the initial approach of sinners to God through Christ for mercy and pardon, but about the daily access of believers to him for grace and assistance. To receive mercy, therefore, is to be made to participate in the gracious help and support of the kindness of God in Christ, when we are in distress. This springs from the same root as pardoning grace and is therefore called ‘mercy’.”
“After terrifying us, the Apostle now comforts us, after pouring wine into our wound, he now pours in oil.” Martin Luther, quoted by
I am in the process of re-reading Liberating Ministry from the Success Syndrome by Kent and Barbara Hughes. I had to read it in seminary, and have been planning on going through it again. A few other guys have blogged about it in recent months.