Posted in Uncategorized, tagged adultery, apostasy, Carl Trueman, Counseling, Doug Rosenau, fornication, John MacArthur, Mark Driscoll, Preaching, sex, slang terms, Song of Songs, teaching on April 5, 2012 |
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In the first part I examined the fact that all pastors will have to talk about sex from the pulpit because the Bible talks about sex- often. But how often a pastor needs to talk about it will differ according to the needs of the congregation. John MacArthur probably doesn’t have to talk about sex often. I’m not sure I’d want him to talk to me about sex, that would be like talking about sex with my father-in-law. Just doesn’t seem right. Mark Driscoll, who pastors a church filled with young converts, will have greater need to address the subject.
How should a pastor speak about sex? That is the topic I want to pick up now. Just because you should talk about it doesn’t mean you should throw caution to the wind.
When I was taking classes for my counseling degree we had a course on sex. I know you won’t believe me, but sex comes up often in counseling situations. One day we spent time on an exercise. We split up into small groups of both men and women. We had to practice saying “penis” and “vagina”. It was incredibly funny for me because one of my classmates was really struggling to say them in mixed company. That was so far out of her comfort zone. But when you try to do this, it can be weird for anyone.
We were trained to use the proper terms for things, not slang. We called oral sex just that- not a Lewinski or any number of other terms.
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Posted in Uncategorized, tagged cleansing, creation, depravity, forgiveness, gospel, immodesty, immorality, life transformation, modesty, Pornography, Song of Songs, wisdom on March 23, 2011 |
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Things tend to go in cycles, and modesty is back in the news after a Wall Street Journal Op-Ed piece on the subject. I have addressed both nakedness and modesty in the past. But this piece, and a recent commercial for a sitcom have had me pondering the subject again (I’ll spare you visuals).
The author of the piece does not address modesty from a Christian viewpoint. Yet she can see there is something seriously wrong. We struggle with our kids wanting to act like adults when they are not adults yet. But we are complicit in this (she mentions buying said clothes for instance). We have also given them a warped view of what it means to be an adult!
I have not seen the show Perfect Couples. But they run the commercial ad nausium on On Demand (it failed, the show is getting the ax). It is an effective commercial from a purely pragmatic point of view. The woman catches her husband or boyfriend staring at another woman’s cleavage. “They’re just breasts. They don’t have any power over you. Look at them.” She directs his head so he’s looking at them. The camera cuts to the other woman’s very low cut blouse and cleavage. “You don’t own me” he mumbles.
“Just breasts.” Our culture really doesn’t know what is going on. The issue is not clothes or style or cultural differences. We have to go deeper into the conversation, to a place most people don’t want to go. This is because there is no such thing as “just breasts.”
First, we have to think in terms of creation (you could explain some of this via evolution, but I won’t). God made humanity male and female. They had obvious physical differences (and less obvious emotional ones). Those differences were not merely functional, though they had functional reasons. They were also meant to be attractive to the opposite sex. You don’t need a C (much less a D or E) cup to produce milk. Big breasts are not essential to nursing babies. God made women with bigger breasts than men to be attractive to men. The wider hips and rounder bottom are also attractive to men. He made Adam and Eve attractive to one another (yes, she didn’t laugh at his penis). They took delight in one another.
5 Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies. Song of Songs 4
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