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I thought I wrote something about this subject a few years ago. Apparently that post is like many conversations CavWife and I have had: we thought about it but never actually did it.

If I could turn back time, I would write that blog post advocating the use of civil unions as opposed to the push for gay marriage. I think our national leaders really let their constituents down.

Civil unions would grant people the rights often connected with marriage without trying to redefine marriage and engaging in the mother of all culture wars which has polarized America (and other nations) and taken one group out of the closet and is putting another group in the closet.

Civil unions aren’t marriage. Words matter. Ask any progressive; they are pro-choice not pro-abortion. They call their opponents anti-abortion instead of pro-life. The majority of Christians I know have no problem with civil unions but a big problem with gay marriage because of the word “marriage.”

By pushing for marriage (I understand activists pushing for this since they often had additional agendas) our national leaders pushed an entire population into a corner. Are you surprised people have their hackles up? Something they consider sacred (regardless of how we actually act in marriage) was up for a radical make over.

It pushed businesses into a corner. Maybe I’m crazy but fewer Christian bakers, photographers and DJs would have a problem working a civil union than a marriage. Even if they don’t, as we see from the arguments against the photographers in New Mexico they advertised they do weddings. If you don’t advertise civil unions as one service you provide you won’t get sued.

But this push for marriage over civil unions put these businesses into a dilemma that resulted in lawsuits. Litigiousness increased (of course many of our elected officials are lawyers).

I want to weep at times because so much of this was avoidable. This pain. This conflict. This polarization. This victimization. All of this was largely avoidable and homosexual partners would have gotten the rights most of them say they wanted- to be recognized legally for medical and death benefits. Our leaders either grossly miscalculated this thing or they purposely sought to maximize damage to particular populations. Out of charity I’ll assume they grossly miscalculated and future generations will suffer for that miscalculation.

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Today is Valentine’s Day, the day when we celebrate romantic love. Such love ushers many people into the most satisfying and most frustrating relationship of their lives. Isn’t it odd how the same relationship can be both.

https://www.wtsbooks.com/common/images/97805/9780525952473.jpgRomantic love, I’ve often said, is how  God tricks us into getting married. Romantic love is temporary. It can’t last, and it was not meant to last. It often blinds us to the most serious faults and flaws of the other person. It puts us into a position where we have to choose if we will actually love the other person. What often happens is that people, no longer experiencing romantic love (we’ve fallen out of love, they say) and faced with the reality that they have to choose whether or not to love this other flawed person decide to jump ship to find romantic love under the illusion that next time it will last. Love is hard, for many reasons, but this, not romantic love, is the essence of marriage as Tim Keller writes in the third chapter of The Meaning of Marriage.

In the sixth chapter, Embracing the Other, Kathy Keller writes about the differences between the sexes. This is one of the things that makes marriage so satisfying and so frustrating. I’m guessing they decided to have Kathy write the chapter so it would sound softer as she communicates the reality of complementarianism in the Scriptures. She distinguishes that from traditionalism. She teaches the biblical truth, but reminds us that how past generations fleshed it out is not how we have to flesh it out. She makes some good points.


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I’ve been holding my metaphorical tongue on this issue for some time.  I am thoroughly convinced that most Americans, particularly those who hold office just don’t get it.  In a number of ways.  They don’t really understand the problem.  And if you don’t really understand the problem you will not put together a good solution.  It seems that the media & majority politicians portray the problems as 1. insurance companies and 2. Republicans.

Here are some of the problems that need to be addressed, but don’t seem to even be mentioned.

  • Health Care Providers. Often they are concerned about their bottom line, and not your wallet or your health.  As a result, tests are repeated instead of examining the results from just an hour ago.  I’ve seen it in my job in health care.  The patient goes from the ER to the main floors and all kinds of tests are repeated.  It is as if the tests done in the ER didn’t occur.  Well, the patient wishes they didn’t because they have to pay for them.  One contributing factor is health insurance providers who pay according to the test, not knowledge & expertise.  But it is also the health care providers who want to pay off their MRI instead of the one at the other hospital you went to last week.  Health care providers also do not have a fixed rate for services.  Often they are re-priced so the people who can least afford to pay more actually do.  Of course there are irresponsible people who don’t pay their bills, and the health care providers recoup the losses by charging responsible people more.
  • Drug Companies.  They now advertise convincing an unenlightened populace that they have a problem that can only be solved by medication.  The use of these new drugs drives up costs, and therefore the cost of insurance.  They seem to be in cahoots with the medical establishment which keeps changing the “normal” results for blood pressure, cholesterol, etc.
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